A separated father of one is urging others to seek the support he had to help overcome the pain of his marriage break-up.
He’s keen to tell people about the benefits of going on a course run by UK charity Divorce Recovery Workshop. The next local course starts at Reading on Friday, November 11.
Emos, a data scientist, said: “DRW’s group setting meant I heard other people’s stories and perspectives. I realised others had gone through similar or worse things. I wasn’t the only one.
“It was a friendly environment where people talked confidentially. I was definitely happier as a result of the course. It altered the way I was looking at things and approaches I was taking.
“We talked about forgiving our former partner – and ourselves. It’s been a slow journey, but things make more sense now.”
He said he was now more confident when talking with his former partner. They were married for four years before they split up.
Emos, 40, says he learned a mindshift to resist his own pressure to get into a new relationship before he was ready.
“I learned to take my time,” he said.
The course members still support each other via their WhatsApp group and also meet ups.
He added: “Guys often don’t open up to others, but I do recommend DRW to them and also to more people from minority groups. I’m of African descent.
“More diversity would help everyone learn more about others and themselves.”
DRW is for people at every stage of divorce or separation, no matter how long ago it was.
Course co-ordinator Seamus Jennings said: “You will be warmly greeted with a cup of tea or coffee.
“Please call me on 07887 800521 for a chat or email info@drw.org.uk. ”
The four-session DRW course is at Brookside Hall, Earley, on Friday evening of November 11, and Saturday daytime of November 12, and then again the following weekend.
The modest cost covers refreshments.
Details are at the website www.drw.org.uk The national helpline is 0333 335 0489.